There is more information available today on how to achieve success in any field than there has ever been at any time. Yet, only 5 percent
of the population are financially independent at the end of their working lives.
More people are sick, overweight, unfit and unhealthy than ever before.
Today, we know that an enormous amount of illness and disease is caused by negative mental attitudes and unhappiness of various kinds. People actually make themselves sick and poison their relationships with their own thinking.
If you wanted to be good at something, you had to study it thoroughly and practice it diligently.
Law of accident: It says that failing to plan, is planning to fail
Nothing really worthwhile is easy. It’s an erroneous belief that, if a thing is right, it should be easy, like a relationship.
- First, life is hard. It’s always has been and it always will be. You don’t suffer so much from feelings of frustration and injustice.
- Second, everything you are or ever will be is up to you. Your life today is the sum total of your choices, good and bad.
- Third, you can learn anything you need to learn to become anyone you want to become, to achieve anything you want to achieve. There are very few limitations and most of them are on the inside, not on the outside!
If necessity is the mother of invention, then pain seems to be the father of learning
To move ahead, you have to both learn and unlearn
a few things. Your future largely depends on what you learn and practice from this moment onward. Just don’t expect it to be easy!
Brick by Brick
Is it true for me?
Superior men and women trust themselves at a deep level.
Theodore Roosevelt said, ‘Do what you can, with what you have, right where you are
While other people around me were dating and dancing, I was studying, making up for lost time.
If all it took to live a wonderful life was books and ideas, then we would all be rich and happy.
You have to have a system. Without a system you can use to ingrate the ideas you learn, you are like a person trying to assemble a jigsaw puzzle without a picture. And almost any system is better than no system at all. But you have got to learn the system and then discipline yourself to stay at it until you get the results you want.
Basic Operating Principles
The main reason for so much underachievement and frustration is simple that people do not know how to get the most out of themselves.
You come into this world with no instruction manual
Properly used, your incredible brain can take you from rages to riches, from loneliness to popularity, from sickness to radiant health, and from depression to happiness and joy–if you learn how to use it properly.
Your Multidimensional Mind
Your subconscious mind is your central processing unit.
The access ports to your subconscious are both internal and external. Internally, you are affected by your thoughts, your mental pictures or imagination and your feelings. Externally, you are influenced by your suggestive environment, by everything that registers on your conscious mind.
When you think a thought, it often triggers another thought, or even a stream of consciousness that takes you far away from the original thought.
The thoughts you think, the images you hold, the feelings you experience triggers words and actions consistent with them. If you are thinking about your goals, if you can see your goals as already realized, and if this thought makes you feel positive and enthusiastic, you will speak positively and act effectively as you go through your day.
What you read can affect your thoughts, images, feelings, words and actions, and these can in turn influence what you read next. The people around you, your conversations, will influence how you speak, walk and behave.
The tapes you listen to in your car, the shows you watch on television, the seminars you attend and the things you do each day will all affect the person you become and they will, in turn, affect multiply, diminish, increase and alter other influences and other stored information.
Your mind and your life are like a room full of musicians, all playing different instruments and different tunes, and all trying to get your attention.
Your main job, in taking control of your life and your future, is to become the conductor of your own orchestra. You must take control of the internal and external aspects of your life and get them all playing in harmony around a central theme of your own choosing. Your job is to play beautiful music with your life, to make your life a great performance.
Understanding Different Laws
There are two types of laws;
- Man-made Laws
- Natural Laws
You can violate man made laws, like traffic laws and you may or may not get caught. But if you attempt to violate natural laws, you get caught every single time, without exception.
Natural laws can be divided into two categories;
- Physical Laws
- Mental Laws
If law is natural, it works for you everywhere, regardless of whatever you know about it or whether it is particularly convenient for you at that moment.
The Law of Control
It says that, you feel positive about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are in control of your own life, and you feel negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel that you are not in control, or that you are controlled by some external force, person or influence.
This law is also known as ‘locus of control’ theory in psychology.
Internal and external locus of control.
No person or situation can make you feel anything-it is only the way you think about a situation that makes you feel the way you do. And you can control the way you think. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, ‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent’.
There are basically two ways you can get control of any situation that is causing you stress or unhappiness. First, you can take action. Second, you can simply walk away.
The self-confidence that comes with feeling in control is why a person with a clear purpose and a plan always has an edge over someone who is vague or unsure.
The Law of Cause and Effect
It says that for every effect in your life there is a specific cause. It says, that everything happens for a reason, whether or not you know what it is. There are no accidents.
Insanity has been defined as ‘doing the same things in the same way and expecting to get different results.
It is better to light one wee candle than to curse the darkness.
Law of sawing and reaping. It says that whatever you sow, you will reap.
Thoughts are causes and conditions are effects.
If you produce quality products or services that customers want and need and are willing to pay for, and then promote them vigorously, you’ll be successful in selling them. If you don’t, you won’t.
The Law of Belief
It says whatever you believe, with feeling, become your reality.
Belief creates the actual fact. According to your faith (belief) it is done unto you.
- Benevolent world view
- Malevolent world view
Needless to say, people with optimistic beliefs tend to be the movers and shakers, the builders and the creators of the future.
Your self-limiting beliefs.
But whatever your belief, if you believe it strongly enough, it becomes your reality. You walk, talk, behave and interact with others in a manner consistent with your beliefs. Even if your beliefs are totally false, if you believe them, they will be true for you.
Don’t be so quick to sell yourself short. Refuse to accept limitations on your potential. You can probably do far more than you’ve ever done before.
Most of your self-limiting beliefs are not true at all. They are based on negative information that you have taken in and accepted as true. Once you have accepted it as true, your belief makes it a fact for you. As Henry Ford, ‘If you believe that you can do a thing, or if you believe you cannot, in either case, you are right.’
The Law of Expectations
It says that whatever you expect with confidence becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy. What you get is not necessarily what you want in life, but what you expect. Your expectations exert powerful, invisible influence that causes people to behave and situations to work out as you anticipated.
In a way, you are always acting as a fortune-teller in your own life by the way you talk about how you think things are going to turn out.
Story: ……………Double blind experiment: the experimenters held constant for everything except expectations. Graduates, teacher’s random selections (they were all average students)….. When the teachers expect their students to perform well, the students work hard and live up to their teachers’ expectations.
Four Kinds of Expectations
- Expectations of your parents
- Expectations that your boss has of your performance
- Expectations that one have of your children, your spouse and your employees or staff
- Expectations that you have of yourself
Its’ not likely that you will ever be happy or successful working for or with people with negative attitudes and behaviours.
People will always try not to disappoint you.
‘I believe in you, and I know you can do it’.
‘I believe something wonderful is going to happen to me today’.
I can promise you this; if you try this exercise for just three days, at the end of the third day, so many wonderful things will have happened to you that you will not be able to recount them all.
You can create a force field of positive mental energy around you by confidently expecting to gain something from every situation.
You can never rise any higher than your expectations of yourself. Since they are completely under control, be sure that your expectations are consistent with what you want to see happen. Always expect the best of yourself!!!
The Law of Attraction
It says that, you are a living magnet. You invariably attract into your life people and situations in harmony with your dominant thoughts. Like attract like. Birds of a feather flock together.
The principle of sympathetic resonance.
Happy people seem to attract other happy, pleasant people. A person with a prosperity consciousness seems to attract money making ideas and opportunities. Optimistic, enthusiastic salespeople attract bigger and better customers. Positive businesspeople attract the resources, customer, suppliers and bankers they need to build successful businesses. This law works everywhere all the time.
The Law of Correspondence
It says, as within, so without. It says that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. This law declares that you can tell what is going on inside you by looking at what is going on around you.
My big mistake when I was younger was concentrating on doing rather than on being.
One must be something to be able to do something. You must change yourself. You must become a different person on the inside before you see different results on the outside. And you can’t fake it for very long, if at all.
What kind of a person do I have to be to earn the respect of the people I care about and live the kind of life I want to live?
The Law of Mental Equivalency
Also called Law of Mind
, it says, thoughts objectify themselves. Your thoughts, vividly imagined and repeatedly, charged with emotion, become your reality.
Thoughts are things. They take on a life of their own. First you have them, then they have you.